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Finding North

A newsletter exploring growth and identity; grounded in research and drawn from personal insight—occasional deep dives, occasional stumbles, but always seeking North.

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Rebuilding from scratch

One evening during the lockdown, out of nowhere, my mum told us the story of her brother who fought in the Nigerian Civil War. He was too young. They begged him not to go but he insisted and marched in with other young men of his time. When the war ended, they waited. And waited. But he never came back. The war had swallowed him whole. Young Biafran soldiers operating a heavy machine gun, 11th June 1968. Credit: Mirrorpix / Bridgeman Images There was something about the stillness of that...

Reader, Social media has been feeling a bit off to me lately. Maybe it’s the algorithm going haywire. Maybe it’s the changing culture of how we now use it. Maybe it’s the constant, constant, influencer-driven platforms demanding plush, pose, and perfection. I really enjoy my instagram, mostly for the entertainment. I didn’t mind the hours invested as long as the videos were fun. Honestly, I laugh at videos with tears welling in my eyes. But, to be honest, I never leave feeling great about...

Reader, I can't believe how time flies–it's almost the end of 2024! I'm writing from a farm in the Scottish Highlands, where I've gone in search of quiet solitude far from the familiarity of my apartment and my day-to-day life. My cabin just outside of St Andrews Last week, I wrote about a new way of planning for the New Year that shifts the focus from hitting metrics. It instead builds and reinforces our values and our identities. I deeply believe that that is the path to self-growth that is...

We are at that time of the year where it is natural to pause, reflect on the past months, and look ahead to the new year. But to be honest, Reader, New Year’s resolution don’t really work for me. Mostly because I know goals or outcomes really don’t motivate me. For example, I go to the gym consistently because I value well-being. I have no specific goal but honoring the commitment to a healthy lifestyle. The process itself is part of who I want to be. I suspect there are other people like me...

Key moments in my life have been shaped by exceptions, instances where rules were set aside. There were times when I didn’t meet typical age requirements or certifications, yet someone decided to make an exception. However, I’ve come to realize it was unhelpful to talk or to write about these exceptions, because there’s no formula to them. They’re unpredictable and largely dependent on factors outside my own control. At one point exceptions can be made and in another, not. Progress is often...

A few months ago, I listened to Seth Godin discuss how NPR had a golden opportunity to dominate the podcast market. And could have built the very infrastructure for podcasting. They were already the best in radio. They had the people, the talent, the resources to make it happen. It was aligned with their mission Yet, they didn’t seize the chance. Why? They were defending the spectrum–the status quo–those familiar dials turn to find an FM channel (millennials will relate). A portable AM/FM...

Reader, It’s easy to look around, ask what is trending, and hop on it. But it can be difficult sometimes to do what isn’t popular although it aligns with our values and aspirations for what we want to create in the world. I’m not talking about social media trends…I’m talking broader cultural, social, or even career trends. But let’s talk about social media trends—it’s a good example for the point I want to make: During the pandemic, we saw a lot of trends on social media that garnered...

Reader, I was scheduled to lead a storytelling workshop at 11 AM a few weeks back–a session I’ve conducted countless times over the past couple of years. But at 8 AM that morning, my perfectionist drive kicked in. I suddenly decided I needed to create something entirely new: fresh images, different colour schemes, better font choices. I wanted to introduce cool transitions to make it even more sophisticated. In retrospect, I didn’t need to reinvent the wheel, I just needed minimal...

Reader, I met with a friend recently, one conversation led to another, and we arrived on the topic of introversion vs extroversion. She wanted the line between these two personalities blurred, cleaned off, and not talked about anymore. She thought it was unhelpful to make such distinctions that box people, and thought it was ultimately unhelpful and restrictive—especially for introverts. But I disagreed! Introversion and extroversion simply signify where individuals derive their energy....

🎧Listen to this week's letter as a podcast Reader, yesterday, I was in the Scottish National Museum and what struck my imagination more than any other was the Apple 1. Apple 1 Locked behind a glass box, the very first Apple computer was a briefcase of circuits; a detached keyboard that looked more like a typewriter; and an ancient TV box. I’m currently writing this essay from a MacBook, and it’s simply phenomenal to witness the power of iteration. Most things don’t appear fully formed. They...